For parents and guardians, watching your teenager navigate life’s challenges can be overwhelming, especially when those challenges require professional support. If your teen is entering therapy, they are taking a brave and important step toward their well-being. As a parent or caregiver, your support can make all the difference in how successful their transition to therapy becomes.
At BOLD Health, a San Diego-based Intensive Outpatient Program (IOP) specializing in adolescent care, we’ve seen firsthand the transformative impact that family support can have during this crucial phase. Here’s how you can help your teen adjust to and thrive in their therapeutic journey.
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Normalize Therapy as a Healthy Choice
Teens often feel nervous about starting therapy, fearing judgment or stigma. Help them understand that therapy is a positive, healthy choice that many people—both teens and adults—benefit from. You might share examples of well-known figures or people in your life who have sought therapy to improve their mental health.
Reassure your teen that seeking help is not a sign of weakness; it’s a courageous step toward growth and resilience. By framing therapy as something common and valuable, you’ll help reduce their anxiety and encourage openness.
Create a Safe Space for Open Conversations
Your teen may have mixed emotions about therapy. Create an environment where they feel safe discussing their concerns, hopes, or fears without fear of judgment. Some teens may openly share what’s on their minds, while others may take time to open up. Either way, let them know you’re there to listen and support them without pressuring them to share more than they’re ready for.
Use validating language like, “It’s okay to feel unsure or nervous” or “I’m proud of you for taking this step.” Affirming their feelings helps them feel seen and supported.
Learn About the Therapy Process Together
Teen therapy can involve various approaches, such as cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT), family therapy, or group therapy. Ask your teen’s therapist for resources or guidance on how to familiarize yourself with the specific methods being used. When you show interest in understanding their therapy journey, it communicates that you care about their experience and that you’re invested in their growth.
Additionally, help your teen prepare by discussing what therapy sessions might look like. Explain that it’s normal to feel unsure at first, and that building trust with a therapist takes time. Remind them that therapy is a partnership—they have a say in their goals and how they approach challenges.
Be Patient With the Process
Therapy is not a quick fix. It’s a journey that requires time, effort, and patience. Resist the urge to demand immediate results or constantly ask if they feel “better yet.” Instead, celebrate small milestones. For example, if they express a new insight, manage a difficult emotion, or practice a coping skill, acknowledge their progress.
Let your teen know that setbacks are a normal part of healing. By showing patience and empathy, you’ll foster resilience and trust in the process.
Respect Their Privacy
While it’s natural to want updates on your teen’s progress, respect their need for confidentiality. Therapy sessions are a private space for your teen to explore their thoughts and feelings without fear of judgment or interference. Avoid pressuring them to disclose what happens in sessions unless they volunteer information.
If you’re curious about how you can help, consider asking general, open-ended questions like, “How can I support you?” rather than probing for specifics about their sessions. Respecting their boundaries strengthens their sense of trust and autonomy.
Encourage Self-Care Outside of Therapy
Therapy is just one part of a holistic approach to mental health. Encourage your teen to engage in activities that promote self-care, such as physical exercise, hobbies, journaling, or spending time with friends. Supporting a healthy routine outside therapy can reinforce the strategies they’re learning and provide a balanced framework for their well-being.
Model self-care in your own life, too. When your teen sees you prioritizing your mental and emotional health, it sets an example of the importance of caring for oneself.
Address Your Own Emotions and Reactions
Watching your teen go through therapy can bring up a range of emotions for you as a parent. You may feel guilt, worry, or even frustration. It’s important to process these feelings so that they don’t unintentionally impact your interactions with your teen. Consider seeking your own support, whether it’s through a therapist, support group, or trusted friend.
By caring for your emotional health, you’re better equipped to support your teen in theirs. Remember, modeling emotional resilience and vulnerability can also help normalize these traits for your teen.
Stay Engaged Without Overstepping
As part of an Intensive Outpatient Program, family involvement is often a key component of treatment. Stay engaged by attending family therapy sessions or educational workshops offered by BOLD Health. These programs are designed to help parents and guardians build the tools they need to support their teens.
However, balance your involvement with giving your teen room to navigate their journey independently. Let them know you’re available and invested without overshadowing their progress.
Celebrate Their Courage
Taking steps toward better mental health is a big deal, especially for teenagers. Acknowledge and celebrate their courage. Recognize their efforts, whether it’s attending their first session, trying a new coping strategy, or opening up to their therapist. Positive reinforcement builds their confidence and reinforces the idea that they are capable of growth and change.
BOLD Health: Supporting Your Teen’s Mental Health Journey
At Bold Health, our compassionate team offers expert care tailored to the unique challenges that children and teenagers face today. Whether your teen is managing anxiety, depression, ADHD, or other conditions, our evidence-based approaches can help.
Let’s build resilience together—empowering your child or teen to overcome obstacles and thrive. Contact Bold Health today to learn more about our services in San Diego Child and Teen Psychiatric Care.